“15 Valuable Lesson About Being A Woman “

 

General

1. ‘Sometimes it’s hard to be a woman’ Dolly Parton

2. It’s alright to be weird ‘I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me, too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you.’ Frida Kahlo

3. There is no such thing as a ‘real’ woman.

Art

4. ‘For most of history, Anonymous was a woman.’ Virginia Woolf

5. ‘They might not like me but they can’t get inside the heart of an ancient scribe who writes nightly and daily. I write to stop me going crazy and still they turn around like ‘She’s alright for a lady’. Kate Tempest

6. You should definitely do what you love. ‘I write only because There is a voice within me That will not be still.’ Sylvia Plath

7. Women’s art (much like women’s work) is undervalued because women are devalued. That is not an accident, and whatever Caitlin Moran might think the reason we’re not so prominent in the history books is not because we ‘haven’t done much’. It’s that any trace of our achievements have been left out by which ever white guy wrote the fucking books.

Work

8. The majority of low paid jobs are the ones that sad balls of privilege like Boris Johnson think that women should still be doing for free.

9. There is no one issue we campaign on that will make hetero-patriarchal-white-cisexist-bourgie-abled-capitalism ‘good’. Yeah the gender pay gap is a big sad. But also, white women earn more than black men. Working class women earn less than middle class women. Transwomen are massively under-employed because of transphobia and young disabled people are the group most likely to experience workplace bullying.

10. Sex work is work.

The Revolution

11. Lily Allen, Kate Nash, Emma Stone, Germaine Greer and Hilary Clinton are not the revolution.

12. We’ve been at this shit for ages. ‘It is time to effect a revolution in female manners – time to restore to them their lost dignity.’ Mary Wollstonecraft

13. ‘Radical simply means ‘grasping things at the root.” Angela Y Davis

Surviving

14. Sometimes you will feel bad. Sometimes it will be because that’s how brains brain. I advise this website http://positivedoodles.tumblr.com/

15. Sometimes is will be because people are treating you badly. I would like to say that people (non-women) who do this are wrong. I’d like to say that you should purge them from your life and have a Bridget Jones like epiphany and fuck it all off and become a French girl in a perfume advert or a grown up Dora the Explorer. But non-women everywhere will devalue women because they (and we) exist in a state of patriarchy. Even if they are nice. Even if they are friends. Or Dr’s. Or parents. Or partners. Even if they love us. Or we love them. Even if they consider themselves feminists. Because that is what oppression is. It will permeate everything facet of your life. And most of the time it will happen in such as slippy, ‘normal’ way that you can’t pin it down, or call it out. And you just have to nod or walk away, or look away, or smile and feel bad. THAT second there where you feel horrible inside but you’re performing normally outside- THAT is you internalizing sexism. That is you taking what that person has implied about your worth and absorbing its nastiness rather than risking your relationships, health, job, family, etc to say it out loud. And I want you to know that it’s OK to not call everything out. And we all do it. And it sucks. I think the most basic act of feminism (for non-women) is learning that being an ally is more than just signing the odd petition, it should be difficult and uncomfortable and it means taking time to examine your actual bullshit rather than just saying the right words to gain points. And for women the most basic act of feminism is learning that feminism belongs to women and it is our only tool with which to block out some of the shit we endure on a daily basis, so it’s OK to demand it be better and to be possessive of it and it’s OK to feel shit when you can’t speak up or escape patriarchy. We are all here together fighting against this shit because we deserve to be free of it. Because we are very precious.

 


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