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- LGBTQ
- Defining LGBTQ
- You are not alone – Personal Experiences
- ‘Being Fat and Looking Trans’
- “there are people around you to help”
- “My happily ever after “
- “we can get STD’s as lesbians”
- “I’m happy because I know who I am”
- “How to kill a trans person”
- “Privilege, or how I’m learning to start thinking and hate white men”
- “I’ve decided to accept the label of pansexual”
- “Lesbian sex: Everything to put everywhere!”
- “My trans allies are anything but”
- “Pronouns and privilege”
- ‘a torrent of biphobia’
- “My sexuality is my business”
- “Should I tell them I was gay and face chaos?”
- “I don’t want to live denying I’m gay”
- “My experience of Bisexuality”
- “PC gone mad?”
- “I am who I am. You are who you are. And that’s just fine.”
- “I’m a… a…” “A Lesbian!”
- Submit your story
- Get Involved
- Links and Resources
- Help and Support
- Your Questions Answered
- Disabled
- Defining disability
- You are not alone – Personal Experiences
- “the last stigmas”
- “confetti started to fall”
- “the sheer assault of what message these words conveyed”
- “I didn’t know what it was causing the agonising pain”
- “they’re not as distasteful as having a life-threatening illness”
- “Coming out as disabled”
- “untitled” Deafblind mutterings
- “My day to day life with Aspergers”
- “The Spoon Theory”
- “A Limbess Perspective”
- “I didn’t consider myself disabled”
- “How to shake a disabled person’s hand
- “People assume”
- “Through a glass darkly – Living with Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and aspergers Syndrome (AS)”
- “Living with a stammer”
- “What happens in my head when you spell things out to me”
- “I couldn’t date you as my friends would laugh”
- “what it’s actually like to be autistic”
- “The individual is the expert”
- “Being told I was going blind was like having my heart ripped out”
- “The Reality of an Autistic Person”
- “Why don’t dyslexics just use spell checkers?”
- “Knowing M.E., Knowing You (aha)”
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- Get Involved
- Links and Resources
- Help and Support
- Your Questions Answered
- Mental Health
- Defining Mental Health
- You are not alone – Personal Experiences
- “I started having issues with my body when I was a child”
- “How to be a good friend to crazyfolk”
- “My ‘journey’ on antidepressants”
- “It Could Never Happen To Me”
- “there are people around you to help”
- “How mental health has affected my studies”
- “Please be patient”
- “I don’t know if I am getting better or worse with them”
- “maybe anti-depressant medication could help”
- “It does get better”
- “I have razors in the post”
- “I can’t seem to distract myself from worries and obsession”
- “Schizo Knock-Back”
- ” The difference between giving in and starting anew”
- “I do consider ending my life”
- “It is a serious issue of feeling safe”
- “How lucky I am to still be here”
- “Don’t go any further”
- “It’s not our fault, it’s our burden”
- “Go to your GP. There is help. Right?”
- “Each flashback is a battle”
- “there is hope”
- “My Silent Undoing”
- “Don’t judge me…?”
- “I found the courage to discuss it”
- “On the Borderline of what?”
- “Trigger Subjects”
- “What’s cold, white and unstable? A Bi-Polar Bear”
- “If I died, it would not be anorexia that tore my family apart: it would be me”
- “When I say I’m feeling low, stop offering to buy me a shot”
- Submit your story
- Experiences of Antidepressants
- Get Involved
- Resources and Links
- Help and Support
- Your Questions Answered
- Women
- Defining Women
- Being a Woman
- You are not alone – Personal Experiences
- “I could not walk down my street without looking over my shoulder”
- “coming out as a feminist”
- “How to spot a black woman”
- “My feminist journey so far”
- “I was in an abusive relationship”
- “Don’t judge a book by its cover”
- “You didn’t thank me for punching you in the face”
- “Rape fantasy, not reality”
- “Orgasms – everywhere, except my bedroom”
- “Women and wanking”
- “Experiences of being a fat woman”
- “Not in my nature”
- “mess up + angered father = beating”
- “I find wolf whistling offensive and intimidating”
- “I spent most of my teenage years worrying about the way that I looked”
- “I dread turning on the TV”
- “What’s in a name?”
- Submit your story
- Get Involved
- Resources and Links
- Help and Support
- Your Questions Answered
- Black
- Defining Black
- You are not alone – Personal Experiences
- “The Staring Game”
- “How to spot a black woman”
- “Where are you from?”
- “I was informed that I do not qualify as Black”
- “Anti semitism is still racism”
- “Writing Angry!”
- “British?”
- “Double standards in liberation”
- “Racism and cocktails”
- “It is clear the murder was driven by Islamophobia and racism”
- “Because…”
- “Racial prejudices still lurks in our everyday lives”
- Submit your story
- Get involved
- Resources and Links
- Help and Support
- Your Questions Answered
- Survivors
- Definitions
- Processes of reporting rape
- Statistics and Conviction Rates
- Myth busting
- Consent
- Language and Jargon
- You are not alone – Personal Experiences
- “the most awful time of my life”
- “I trusted him”
- “this wasn’t how it should be”
- “I have waited 8 years”
- “There are no excuses”
- “Why I didn’t and won’t report my rape”
- “For years I didn’t think of myself as someone who had been assaulted”
- “It’s trigger warning week”
- “How my rapist walked free”
- “Rape Rape: What nobody’s telling you”
- “Arguing about rape on the internet”
- “Taken from me”
- “I’m a Survivor”
- “To all those men who don’t think the rape jokes are a problem”
- “I once was a victim for sure, but now I’m a survivor”
- “Three times”
- “Learning to say stop”
- Resources
- Friends, Family & Allies
- feeling fuzzy
Self Definition
Throughout this website it is hoped that you will be able to learn about the different peoples experiences of various aspects of their lives. It is therefore important to introduce to you the concept of self-definition.
Self Definition allows an individual to pick and choose whether or not they define into a liberation campaign regardless of how others view them. For example an individual may self-define as having a mental health problem such as Bipolar disorder without necessarily having to have a piece of paper from the GP saying that this is the case. This is especially important for health issues such as mental ill health and disability when it can take months, if not years to receive a diagnosis and for some this might not be possible. Having the ability to say ‘I am Bipolar’ allows people to understand their own experiences and manage them without having to wait for a professional to tell them what they already know. This is the same for all of the liberation campaigns, if someone has experiences racism because of the way that they look then it is up to them if they want to define as Black it’s not up to others to say that your not as black as me. Similarly it is not for some one to say you’re not Gay because you’re not camp enough or that you’re not a lesbian because you don’t ‘look’ like one.
This is what self-definition is all about, the ability to define into a liberation campaign without anyone telling you can or can’t and no requirements to go through a formal procedure to prove you are or aren’t.
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